• Heal Your Mind & Body at Dewa Spa

  • Study with World-Class Teachers

  • Practice in One of Our Unique Venues

  • Expand Your Awareness with Meditation

  • Go Hiking in the Catskill Mountains

  • Enjoy Delicious Nourishing Farm-to-Table Cuisine

  • Menla is a Project of Tibet House US,

    the Dalai Lama’s Cultural Center in NYC

  • Deluxe Queen – $1,140.00
  • Deluxe Double – $927.00

Address: 375 Panterkill Road PO Box 70 Phoenicia, NY 12464 United States

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Cultivating the Joy of Sexuality & Intimacy: a Ketamine-assisted Retreat for Couples

With Jayne Gumpel, LCSW, Sylvia Rosenfeld LCSW, Seema Desai, MD, Matthias von Reusner, MD, David Gumpel M.A, Donna Sorgen, LMHC,LPC and Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW

April 27 - 30, 2023

This is a safe, structured retreat designed by Jayne Gumpel LCSW and led by a staff of licensed and highly-experienced couples therapists and physicians in the beautiful Catskill Mountains at MENLA Retreat and Spa. Sylvia Rosenfeld LCSW, a lead facilitator at this retreat, is an Imago trained, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, with more than 40 years of experience working with couples and individuals who want to enhance their sexual and emotional connection. DeeDee Goldpaugh LCSW, AASECT Certified, will be assisting.

TEXT: 914 924 1509 for a screening call (with Jayne). Retreat participation by application only, please complete the application for both individuals to set up your initial complimentary introduction. After completing the application, additional details will be sent by email.

This retreat  utilizes a powerful healing medicine, ketamine, in supervised, guided sessions to help couples reduce defensiveness, open their heart space to each other, and tap into the transformative power of pleasure and connectedness.

5 reasons to attend:

  • You are in a committed relationship and feel stuck
  • You experience the desire to recover sexual pleasure and intimacy
  • You and your partner want guidance and inspiration with your relationship vision
  • You both would benefit from a relaxed, safe and beautiful place with acres of trails and a world class spa
  • You want to reach a higher level of connection and commitment.

Why ketamine assisted couples’ therapy?

The purpose of using sublingual ketamine lozenges is to facilitate an environment to go deeper in the relational work. Our experience has been that ketamine can provide a more optimal psycho-spiritual-mental space to work within for individuals and couples. Low dose ketamine combined with state of the art couples psychotherapy has the potential to facilitate more rapid movement for couples who have felt ‘stuck’ in their work together. Some experts have described Ketamine as a ‘lubricant’ for process work as defenses and anxiety can be reduced; resulting in a stronger relationship.

About the retreat

The stunning setting for our retreat is Menla in the beautiful Catskill Mountains. We have deluxe rooms with private baths and cozy, comfortable bedding. The food is vegetarian and made with love. We are a professional staff of medical doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists and licensed mental health practitioners. Collectively we have many years of experience with KAP (ketamine assisted psychotherapy) and we hold the space for you with integrity and great care.

This retreat uses ketamine as a portal to enter into the depths of our being to allow for a safe and loving exploration of the sexuality and intimacy needs and experiences in your relationship and with your partner. Sexual energy is the basic energy of the being; when it is impeded we are unable to reach our full potential. When sexual energy flows, life flows, affecting not only our sexuality but our all over health and happiness.

There will be three optional dosings during the weekend. Couples who choose to abstain from ketamine will find the structure, processes and content of the retreat helpful and effective, safe, beautiful and JOYFUL. Ketamine is not the healing by itself. With guidance and care participants can experience their innate intelligence and joyful capacities we all have as humans. This is where the healing happens. The medicine points to the trail that leads you back to where you lost deep connection, romance and sexual pleasure.

Mindfulness, Noble Communication and Noble Listening are the  core practices taught and practiced throughout this retreat. We all have the possibility of becoming more present, more embodied and more honest with ourselves. We begin to realize that it is in fact, us who are creating the discord in our relationships and our life in general. This retreat is an invitation to become the author of your intimacy and sexuality narrative and  experiences in your committed relationship.

Let the beauty begin~ 914 924 1509 call or text for more information~ Jayne Gumpel

How to Apply


$1650 per person

50% deposit upon enrollment

Final balance due by March 1, 2023 (payments non-refundable after 3/1/2023)

This includes: 

*Screening call 20 minutes

*Preparatory zoom pre retreat on zoom for every couple 2:1
*Post retreat zoom in group format

*retreat materials

This fee does NOT include housing and medical interview.

– Medical Intake fee $500 per couple to provider

– Housing to be paid by participants directly to MENLA

Organizer/faculty contact info

Jayne Gumpel, LCSW

Jayne’s Email Address

Jayne’s Phone Number

Relationship Resources LLC


914 924 1509 (C)

15 Pine Grove St, Woodstock, New York 12498 (O)


“To love is good, too: love being difficult. For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.” Rilke

Thursday, April 27

  • 3 pm Room check-in Begins – Optional early arrival to schedule spa treatment
  • 4 – 6 pm Check-in starts
  • 6 – 7  pm Dinner
  • 7 – 9:15 pm Evening Program

Friday, April 28

  • 7:15 am Meditation and Yoga (optional)
  • 8 am Check-in & Opening Program *no breakfast
  • 9:30 am Meeting the Medicine
  • 10:00 am Ketamine Session
  • 12:30 – 1:30 pm Lunch.
  • 1:30 – 3:30 pm BREAK (book a massage or spa treatment!).
  • 3:30 – 5:30 pm Afternoon Program
  • 6 – 7 pm Dinner.
  • 7 pm Intimacy and Sexuality Workshop.
  • 9 pm Bonfire (weather permitting)

Saturday, April 29

  • 7:15 am Meditation and Yoga (optional).
  • 8:30 am Morning Program – *no breakfast.
  • 10 am Ketamine Session
  • 12:30 – 1:30 pm Lunch.
  • 1:30 – 3:30 pm BREAK (book a massage or spa treatment!).
  • 3:30 – 5:30 pm Afternoon Program
  • 6 – 7 pm Dinner
  • 7 pm Evening Workshop
  • 9 pm Night Activity

Sunday, April 30

  • 7 – 11 am Check-out of Rooms for Sunday Departure Guests
  • 7:15 am Meditation and Yoga (optional).
  • 8:30 am Morning Program
  • 9:30 am  Ketamine Session (optional)
  • 11 am Group Process
  • 12:30 – 1:30 pm Lunch
  • 1 pm Closing Group Process
  • 3 pm End of Program
  • 6 pm Dinner *optional and participants can choose to stay Sunday night to enjoy Monday spa day – This night is not included in listed rates to book please reach out to frontdesk@menla.org or 845 688 6897 ext 101. Dinner is only available to guests staying over Sunday April 30th. 

Monday, May 1 (Optional) – This night is not included in listed rates to book please reach out to frontdesk@menla.org or 845 688 6897 ext 101.

  • 7 – 11 am Checkout of Rooms
  • Menla Spa Day

*Please note schedule is subject to change


Jayne Gumpel, LCSW
Jayne Gumpel, LCSW (she/her/hers) is a psychotherapist, trainer, and teacher with 30 years of experience working with couples, individuals, and groups in New York City and Woodstock, NY. Jayne is a professional clinical trainer in Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy, is a member of the Woodstock Therapy Center’s Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) team, and has completed MDMA-assisted psychotherapy training through the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS). Jayne describes meditation as a core life practice, is a teacher of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, and she includes mindfulness practice as a foundation of her work with clients. She is additionally trained in Imago Relationship Therapy…
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Sylvia Rosenfeld LCSW
Sylvia Rosenfeld LCSW is an Imago trained, AASECT certified Sex Therapist, with more than 40 years of experience working with couples and individuals who want to enhance their sexual and emotional connection. Her passion with her clients and in her own life is to cultivate mutually satisfying and deeply loving relationships. Sylvia is currently participating in the Fluence ketamine assisted psychotherapy certificate program
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Seema Desai, MD
Seema Desai, MD (she/her/hers) is a board certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist with a clinical interest in the intersection of spirituality and psychiatry. She integrates principles of mindfulness into her work with patients and teaches on topics of mindfulness and mental health. For the past 10 years she has served as assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at NYU School of Medicine and at the NYU World Trade Center Health Program treating first responders who suffer from mental health conditions related to events of 9/11. Seema has experience in leading mindfulness-based skills groups for stress reduction and wellness. She co-edited…
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Matthias von Reusner, MD
Matthias von Reusner, MD (he/him/his) is a board-certified Family Physician with an active practice in the Hudson Valley. Matthias received training in Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy at the prestigious Ketamine Training Institute and is a team member of the KAP team at the Woodstock Therapy Center. He is a fellow at the Integrative Psychiatry Institute and also practices Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. Matthias became inspired to do psychedelic psychotherapy work after experiencing indigenous medicine ceremonies in Peru with the Shipibo people. Since then he has deepened his knowledge of shamanic practices with training at The Four Winds Academy. Matthias feels passionately about couples…
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David Gumpel M.A
David Gumpel is an Integral Master Coach and a qualified teacher of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) through UMASS medical school. David is the co-founder of Access Mindfulness and a study coordinator for the MAPS sponsored MDMA-Assisted Therapy for the treatment of post-traumatic stress disorder study in NYC. As a coach, David teaches mindfulness to clients in private practice and to groups in corporate settings. At Fluence, David provides Mentoring and teaches MBSR courses for Certificate Program Participants. Find him online at ebcpathways.com.
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Donna Sorgen, LMHC,LPC
Donna Sorgen, LMHC, LPC (she/her/hers) is a psychotherapist with over 20 years experience working with adults, children, adolescents, couples, and groups. She is the Director of the Woodstock Therapy Center and the Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Program at WTC. She is also the Director of a new Ketamine-Assisted Therapy Certificate program. Donna has spent her career working with diverse clients in multiple settings. Donna’s current private practice includes KAP, Psychotherapy, and  Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy. In addition to KAP training Donna has completed training in MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD through the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS). Donna has a background in…
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Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW
Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist and clinical supervisor in private practice specializing in sex and relationship therapy, trauma, spirituality, and Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy. They are also a member of the Woodstock Therapy Center Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) Team. Dee Dee has written and presented widely on the topic of psychedelics and sexuality, queer identity, trauma, spiritual practice, and pleasure. They have presented at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, The Alt Sex Conference Speaker’s Series, The Center for Optimal Living, and have forthcoming publications on psychedelics and sexuality in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy and the Queering Psychedelics…
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