Getting Over Yourself: The Best of Buddhism and Psychotherapy

August 19 - August 21, 2022

Robert A.F. Thurman

Mark Epstein, M.D.

Buddhism and Western psychotherapy both recognize that the ego, and its accompanying sense of nagging self-doubt as it works to be bigger, better, smarter, and more in control, is the one affliction we all share. And while the ego claims to have our best interests at heart, in its never-ending pursuit of attention, security and self-esteem, it sabotages the very goals it sets out to achieve. Buddhist and Western psychotherapists have different visions of how to deal with this situation. In Buddhism, the emphasis is on taming the mind in order to bring out underlying qualities of wisdom and compassion. In psychotherapy, there is a great concern with excavating childhood difficulties and working through emotional blockages so as to free a person from the vestiges of the past. Can these two approaches be reconciled? What can Buddhism learn from therapy, and what can therapists learn from Buddhism?Join Mark Epstein as he talks with Robert Thurman about John Cage, D.W. Winnicott, Buddhist emptiness, clinging, mindfulness, insight, aggression, and good-enough parenting and how he has brought these worlds together in his own therapy practice. Drawing upon his recently published book, The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life, this weekend’s workshop, through lectures, discussion, meditation and questions and answers, will explore what an integrated approach to healing actually looks like and what it means to heal your heart and mind.This is a hybrid in-person/online retreat. This page is for the in-person option for this retreat. If you would prefer to attend online only from home instead, please CLICK HERE to go to the online option registration page.
ScheduleFriday, August 19
  • 3 - 8 pm Check- in
  • 6 - 7 pm Dinner
  • 7:15 pm Welcome Program (Nalanda Conference Center)
Saturday, August 20
  • 7 - 8 am Tibetan Nejang Longevity Yoga (Nalanda Conference Center)
  • 8 - 9 am Breakfast
  • 9:30 - 12 pm Program (Nalanda Conference Center)
  • 12:30 - 1:30 pm Lunch
  • 1:30 - 4 pm Free time for Spa Treatments, Hiking
  • 4 - 6 pm Program (Nalanda Conference Center)
  • 6 - 7 pm Dinner
  • 7:30 pm Program (Nalanda Conference Center)
Sunday, August 21
  • 7 - 11 am Check-out of Rooms
  • 7 - 8 am Tibetan Nejang Longevity Yoga (Nalanda Conference Center)
  • 8 - 9 am Breakfast
  • 9:30 - 12 pm Closing Program (Nalanda Conference Center)
  • 12:30 - 1:30 pm Lunch and Departure
* Schedule is subject to change at anytime.


Robert A.F. Thurman

Robert Thurman is Professor of Indo-Tibetan Buddhist Studies at Columbia University as well as co-founder and President of Tibet House US and it's Menla Retreat & Spa. A world-wide lecturer on Tibetan Buddhism, activist for the plight of the Tibetan people, translator of Buddhis...

Mark Epstein, M.D.

Mark Epstein, M.D. is a psychiatrist in New York City and the author of a number of books about the interface of Buddhism & psychotherapy, including Thoughts without a Thinker, Going to Pieces without Falling Apart, Going on Being, Open to Desire, Psychotherapy without the Self, ...



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